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Episode #12 – Building a Legacy for Generations to Come

Summary: Kirk Wiles made his first wine in 2007 and opened Paradise Springs Winery in 2010, after a ringer of a fight with the county about whether or not growing grapes counted as agriculture. Wiles won that battle and is now writing the script of the wine industry in Virginia and sharing his story and his wine all around the world. His passion not only for high-quality wine but also for the land that’s been in his family since 1716 and for helping customers make memories come together to create a wine experience that everyone can enjoy.

The Rundown:

  • Wine without a road trip.
  • Paradise Springs Winery is steeped in history.
  • Fighting for this passion.
  • Taking Virginia wines to California.
  • Writing the script of the Virginia wine industry.

Show Notes

  • [00:58] Introduction to Kirk Wiles, owner and founder of Paradise Springs Winery.
  • [01:32] Recent renovations.
  • [02:12] Opening the winery.
  • [02:40] A rich history.
  • [04:19] Growing up on the land.
  • [05:26] Refusing to sell the land for development.
  • [06:07] Wiles’ previous work experience.
  • [07:33] The passion for the land and the wine.
  • [09:44] Grand opening mistakes.
  • [11:53] Being an entrepreneur in the wine industry.
  • [13:03] Growing to include a Santa Barbara location.
  • [14:21] The challenges of having a winery in Northern Virginia.
  • [15:51] The team.
  • [17:47] Rejected ideas for the land.
  • [19:09] The longevity of the wine business.
  • [20:16] Writing the script of the wine industry in Virginia.
  • [22:33] Paradise Springs events.
  • [23:27] Biggest mistake in entering the wine industry.
  • [25:27] Contact information.
  • [25:56] Future plans.
http://traffic.libsyn.com/northernvaadvicegivers/FINAL_Ep.13_Kirk_Wiles.mp3

Episode #11 – Marrying the Business

The Rundown:

  • Ciao Osteria is a family restaurant in more ways than one.
  • You’re at home when you’re at Ciao Osteria.
  • Food that is as Italian as you get.
  • The customer is king.
  • Being married to the restaurant.

Summary

Cousins Sal and Anthony went in together to open Ciao Osteria, the best and most Italian Italian restaurant in northern Virginia. Now, a mere three and a half years later, they’ve won so many awards that their wall doesn’t have room for any more plaques or accolades. They give advice to people thinking of starting a business or opening a restaurant, and give tips on how to make the customer’s experience one worth Yelping about.

Time-Stamped Show Notes

  • [00:35] Introduction to Sal and Anthony, owner and chef of Ciao Osteria.
  • [01:50] How their childhoods helped bring them together for Ciao Osteria.
  • [03:34] Ciao Osteria is a family at work.
  • [03:54] Starting and expanding Ciao Osteria.
  • [05:26] The secret ingredient to rave reviews.
  • [07:15] Each dish is the best for each customer.
  • [07:48] Inspiration for the dishes.
  • [09:33] Ciao Osteria’s struggles.
  • [11:34] Transitioning from owning their own restaurants to owning one together.
  • [13:28] Creating the customer experience.
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Conditioning Calm with Kimberly Artley: How to Align Human and Canine Energy to Improve Communication

No Such Thing as a Bad Dog

‘Bad behavior’ in dogs, such as nipping or aggression, are external manifestations of internal driving forces. These behaviors stem from frustration or stress because the dog’s instinctual needs are not being met. Kimberly Artley fixes communication issues between owner and pup to get to the bottom of such behaviors.

Dogs are unable to take themselves out for a run if they have excess energy to burn. “Their quality of life is 100% dependent upon what we choose to provide them and what we don’t,” Artley says. Just like when a person is upset, they may smoke, drink, or shop excessively, dogs may also act out. “It’s boredom, it’s frustration, it’s anxiety,” she says. “It’s a coping mechanism.”

Lobo

Artley’s first dog, Lobo, was her best friend. “He fulfilled that little emotional void,” says Artley. “We did everything together.” He was a balanced, well-behaved dog. However, when Artley and her husband divorced, a switch flipped in Lobo. He became overprotective and aggressive. Artley considered Lobo to be the problem and put herself into bankruptcy trying to fix him, going through trainer after trainer and sending him to a two-week board and train. Eventually, he bit someone and had to be put down. It didn’t have to be that way. “Had I known then what I know now, it would have been a non-issue,” says Artley. “I could have nipped it in the bud.” Lobo is the reason why she does what she does.

Fixing the Right End of the Leash

“We’ve got some of the most psychologically challenged, neurotic dogs on the face of the planet, and we don’t have to look any further than our end of the leash as to why,” says Artley. It’s the owner’s responsibility to provide dogs with what they need to be calm and balanced. To achieve this, Artley conditions calm.

When a dog gains something, such as attention, affection, or getting pet, from practicing something else, such as excitement or being pushy or demanding, they will continue to practice those things. “We’re actually conditioning those behaviors, reinforcing those behaviors, reinforcing that state of mind,” says Artley. Instead of conditioning your dog to be excited, you must condition your dog to be calm, polite, and respectful. “What we do not address and what we do not correct immediately gains our consent,” she says. Failing to disagree with a behavior in a dog will cause that behavior to continue, intensify, and bleed out into other behaviors.

Dogs aren’t born with the understanding of what humans consider appropriate, polite, respectful behavior, we must teach them. “But we cannot teach without first understanding how to communicate effectively,” says Artley. Humans communicate primarily through verbal language, but dogs respond to energy, body language, and vocal inflection. Speaking with a high-pitched, excited voice creates excitement in dogs, while speaking with a lower-registered, calmer voice is more grounding and facilitates a calmer energy.

Trust and Respect

When we bring a dog into our home, we enter into a relationship with them. At the foundation of every sound relationship is trust and respect. When a dog is not listening to their owner, usually it’s due to a lack of respect. Many people try to befriend their dog, especially if their dog is a rescue. They stay attached to the dog’s emotional story and try to compensate for every wrong that the pup has suffered, which doesn’t allow them to move forward. “We cannot lead through emotions,” Artley says.

Provide for Instinctual Needs 

Dogs don’t need a friend. They need structure, rules, boundaries, leadership, discipline, mental stimulation, and nutrition. Like parents of the human species provide all these things for their children, they must also provide them to their dogs as the alpha of the pack.

Different dog breeds have additional needs. People will fall in love with the look of a dog such as a German shepherd, but that’s a super intelligent, working breed. They don’t fare well as pet dogs.

Artley recommends looking at stray and homeless dogs. They don’t tend to be crazy or imbalanced, running around challenging everybody. Rather, they’re calm, cool, and collected. This is because they meet their own needs. If they need exercise, they give it to themselves. Pet dogs, on the other hand, are given every luxury — free meals, toys, beds, attention — they are constantly gaining without having to earn anything. “So what we’re conditioning are very bratty, entitled, unruly, spoiled, pushy, testy dogs,” says Artley. “We’ve got to be more accountable for what we’re doing and not doing. They’re looking to us for their guidance.”

My Dog, My Buddha

Artley wrote My Dog, My Buddha for Lobo and everybody who is struggling. “It’s a blending of personal empowerment and self-help and dog behavior,” she says. “It’s everything kind of wrapped into one.”

Packfit

Packfit does private training and stay-and-learn training. “I’m really big on educating, empowering, and equipping the human end of the leash,” Artley says. Training doesn’t happen in six or eight sessions, it happens every single day. “If our dog is exhibiting some behaviors, it’s our responsibility, it’s our commitment to them to figure out how we can help.”

Contact Information for Kimberly Artley

You can find Kimberly Artley and her book on her website, Facebook, Twitter, or LinkedIn.

Episode #10 – Training Both Ends of the Leash

The Rundown:

  • Love of a lost dog inspires a woman to become a trainer.
  • There’s no such thing as a bad dog.
  • Training the right end of the leash.
  • You can teach an old dog new tricks.
  • Dog training is inadvertent life coaching.
  • There’s a big difference between a response and a reaction.

Summary:

Behaviors in dogs are external manifestations of internal underlying driving forces, but people often try to fix the wrong end of the leash. Kimberly Artley is a dog trainer, life coach, author, and the founder of Packfit, which helps owners and pups communicate and get to the root causes of so-called ‘bad behavior.’ She gives practical tips on changing human behavior to condition calm for a cool, collected dog.

Time-Stamped Show Notes

  • [00:39] Introduction to Kimberly Artley, life coach, dog trainer, and author.
  • [01:30] There’s no such thing as a bad dog.
  • [05:00] Loving animals from a young age.
  • [06:12] Lobo.
  • [11:50] Losing Lobo, gaining inspiration.
  • [14:14] Fixing the right end of the leash.
  • [19:25] It’s never too late to train a dog.
  • [21:21] Providing a better baseline for understanding.
  • [27:23] My Dog, My Buddha.
  • [28:13] Packfit.
  • [33:14] Contact information for Artley.
http://traffic.libsyn.com/northernvaadvicegivers/EP011_-_Kimberly_Artley.mp3

Golf Pro Mark Guttenberg’s Advice on How to Find the Right Coach

A Father’s Inspiration

Finding the right coach to achieve success is extremely important. Mark Guttenberg understands this from the perspective of both student and coach. It was Guttenberg’s father who first inspired him to play golf. When he was ten years old, his father had weekly golf dates and would sometimes let Guttenberg come along and caddy. When one of his father’s fellow players noticed that Guttenberg had a natural swing, he told his father that he should let the boy take lessons. “And that’s where it all started,” says Guttenberg. “I started playing golf at the age of ten and knew right away I was going to be a golf pro.”

His father further increased Guttenberg’s determination when he took him to the US Open at Congressional Country Club, where he saw Arnold Palmer on the putting green. “He had this knock-kneed putting stance, and this really charismatic way about him, and when I saw that, I just knew I (had to) do this one day,” Guttenberg says. So he did. After he accomplished his dream of competing in the PGA Tour, Guttenberg decided to give back and pass on what he had learned by becoming a golf coach.

Giving Back Through Coaching

Guttenberg was a head pro at a golf club where he started to become more involved in teaching. However, when that club bought more houses and took away from the driving range, Guttenberg decided to leave. An acquaintance who had nine golf courses that he wanted teachers for called Guttenberg up and offered him 60,000 customers and a facility where he could teach them. Guttenberg jumped at the opportunity. “I become enamored by the aspect of teaching, the idea that people could come to me to talk about something I love so dearly, pay me money to make them better at what they could do,” says Guttenberg. “I couldn’t believe that I could make a living at that.” The gratification he gets when he sees a student leave with a smile is heartwarming.

A Torch Passed Down by His Own Coach

Guttenberg had had a coach of his own who made him feel like Superman. Now he wants to make his own students feel the same way, passing down the passion from generation to generation through coaching. “(He made me feel) like I could really achieve my dreams, and I try to instill in my students that they can do what they want to do,” he says. “I try to give back like he gave to me.”

Finding the Right Coach For Your Child

Parents seeking a coach for their child have to trust that the coach has the child’s best interests at heart. They also need a good relationship and rapport. “If you and the parents and the kids aren’t on the same page, nobody’s going to win,” says Guttenberg. Although a coach needs to know how to play the game, there’s more to it. “A great coach has to know more than the mechanics of a golf swing,” he says. “You have to be able to motivate your students. You have to be able to empower them and believe in them no matter what.” There will be good days and bad days, and a coach has to know how to get the child up and keep them going through those bad days.

Support Your Child’s Coach

For parents to get the most out of their coaching investment, they should support the coach. “If your child is taking lessons, find out from the coach and from your child what the coach wants you to do,” he says. Nobody wins when Guttenberg gives a lesson and the student comes back two weeks later and didn’t work on what they were supposed to work on, because he or she worked on what the parents thought the child should do instead.

“It’s really not about how great the coach is,” says Guttenberg. “It’s really about how great the parents are. It’s what the parents have done to support and follow up with the development of the kids that makes the difference.”

Novices Need Coaches Too

It’s not only children just learning the sport of golf that benefit from coaches. Novices can also learn and improve with a coach. “The first and most important thing, even if you just took one or two lessons, is the basic fundamentals of how to hold the golf club,” says Guttenberg. He breaks it into four letters — GASP — that teach the proper Grip, Aim, Stance, and Posture. “If you don’t do those correctly, your swing will not evolve properly,” he says. “Fundamentals are very important.”

Lessons, both for children and novices, should be catered to the student. “The type of lesson that you get has a lot to do with you as an individual and your personalities,” says Guttenberg. “So the first part of every lesson for me is an interview. I want to know more about the student.” Guttenberg also wants to know what his students would like to get out of their lesson so he knows how best to pass on the torch of knowledge to the next generation of golf pros.

Contact Information for Mark Guttenberg

You can learn more about Mark Guttenberg at his website, where you can also find his email address and phone number.

Episode #9 – Giving Back As A Coach

Northern VA Advice Givers:  Mark Guttenberg of Guttenberg’s Golf Development Programs

The Rundown:

  • A father’s hobby inspires a boy to be a golf pro.
  • You can pursue your dreams from a young age.
  • The gratification when a student leaves with a smile is heartwarming.
  • The love of helping students is passed from generation to generation through coaches.
  • The love of golf must come from the child, not the parent.

When you are raising an aspiring golfer, finding the right coach is important. To be successful, the coach must share a relationship and rapport with the child and parents, and the parents must be supportive of the child and coach. Mark Guttenberg is a golf professional with over forty years of experience, both as a student and a coach. He offers practical tips on how to choose the right coach for your child and get the most out of their coaching so everyone wins.   

http://traffic.libsyn.com/northernvaadvicegivers/Ep.010_M.GuttenbergFinal.mp3

Episode #8 – Take Control of Your Retirement Investment

Northern VA Advice Givers:  Brian Eastman of Safeguard Advisors

The Rundown

  •      Most people don’t realize their ability to have control over their investments.
  •      There are two things the tax code prohibits for IRA investments.
  •      Safeguard Advisors don’t offer investments; they offer guidelines and advice regarding investment possibilities.
  •      The three things every investor needs are capital, advisors, and perspective.
  •      Investors can educate themselves through the Safeguard Advisors Facebook page, website, investment networking groups, and books and magazines.

Summary

Did you know that you can self-direct your retirement plan? Most people are not aware of this, nor what it really means, let alone how to go about doing so. Brian Eastman, President and Senior Consultant at Safeguard Advisors, an expert in self-directed retirement plans, clears up the confusion. Eastman covers what difficulties a person might face if they are thinking about non-traditional avenues of investment, and how with the right guidance, they may be more in control of their retirement investments and financial future. Although this is unchartered territory for many, his common sense, step-by-step approach to self-directed IRAs and 401(k)s unravels the mysteries.

http://traffic.libsyn.com/northernvaadvicegivers/EP_009_Brian_Eastman.mp3

The Three Things Every Investor Must Have

  1. Capital

A self-directed IRA allows you to invest, but you definitely need available capital. As Brian Eastman of Safeguard Advisors realistically advises, “Most people want to invest in real estate, but guess what? You’re not going to be able to do that with just $10,000 or $15,000.” There are other investment options for that. For many people, retirement income is locked into their employer’s plan. Others believe their money is tied up permanently, but there are some exceptions to this. Sometimes when you change jobs or reach a certain age you are able to access those IRA or 401(k) funds. Talking with someone who specializes in self-directed IRAs can help you recognize potential opportunities and avoid missing out on a chance to redirect your funds. You may be able to free up some of that money and put it to work for you in a self-directed IRA with investments of your own choosing.

  1. Advisors

You need something to invest in, but you also need a team of experienced advisors around you to help you develop a sound investment strategy so you can invest wisely. “The nature of our business,” says Eastman, “is to educate people.” Contrary to what many believe, Safeguard Advisors does not offer investments; they offer advice regarding the tax code and guidelines for investing.

The interest in self-directed IRAs is rapidly growing, as many people are ready to move beyond the traditional investment model. “In past generations that model worked pretty well,” he advises, “but the economy has been much more disruptive in the past few years. It has changed the way people look at Wall Street.” Safeguard Advisors has grown from a fledgling company into a national leader in its field, employing legal and financial experts who can help you with every aspect of successful self-directed IRA investments. In fact, they have thousands of clients in all fifty states and an A+ rating with the BBB. Perhaps that is why upwards of 40% of their business comes as a result of referrals from existing clients.

  1. Perspective

And finally, you need good perspective, which is gained with increased knowledge. If, for instance, you are interested in real estate investing, it’s not enough to think it’s a good idea. You need some knowledge to give you the perspective that will help you make good choices. Some people think that because they are investing in real estate they can finally buy that vacation home on the beach. Not so, says Eastman. “Because the real estate has tax-sheltered status, it’s about exclusively growing the IRA, not about your personal enjoyment.”

Another good way to gain investment knowledge and experience is to join an enlightened local investment club. They usually meet once a month to share ideas and information, learn about investing, network with other investors, analyze investment options, and many even pool their money to make investments as a unit. Buying and selling is done by a voting process. Since they are all different, it is often a good idea to visit more than one group so you can choose the one that feels right for you. Another part of educating yourself and gaining perspective is reading magazines and books about investing. There is a great deal of information out there, and Eastman advocates that all you have to do is make the time for it.

Learning More

There is no such thing as learning too much when it comes to growing your nest egg for retirement. All those you learn from, advisors, authors, and fellow investors all become part of your network, and you can learn something from all of them. Host Ryan Sloper remarks that learning about self-directed IRAs and acting on that knowledge “could mean the difference between a successful retirement and dreaming about what could have been.”

Safeguard Advisors is working hard to put that knowledge out there in several ways. The Safeguard Advisors Facebook page is a great resource for timely information and includes topics such as stocks vs. housing, investing in non-performing notes, and successful flipping with a self-directed IRA. The Safeguard Advisors website is easy to navigate and loaded with interesting information which will inform, educate, and entertain you. They also welcome your questions via telephone at 1-877-229-9763 and by emailing irainfo@ira123.com.

Sheyna Burt’s Contributions to Business and the Arts

A Little Girl with Big Ideas

What sort of environment creates someone like Sheyna Burt? The oldest of four children, Burt quips, “I was always super bossy. I wanted to be queen of the universe, but apparently that is not a thing, so short of doing that, I wanted to be an astronaut, but by age ten I knew I wanted to be an attorney.” She was serious about it too, carrying a briefcase to school in lieu of a book bag. In public school she also had the opportunity to learn to play an instrument. Hers was a violin, and right away she loved it. “I remember getting a violin just before fifth grade started, making the most obnoxious noises with it. I remember the way it smelled. I was obsessed with how it sounded and how it smelled. ”

Later, when Burt was invited to participate in the Governor’s School for the Arts, she describes it as a “transformative moment” in her life. “I found my fellow nerds of music!” she says with satisfaction. The Governor’s School mission statement identifies it as “a center for innovation that develops excellence, nurtures creativity, inspires artistic vision and builds communities with a passion for the arts.”

Role Models and Mentors

“My first mentors were in the house,” says Burt. “Both of my parents were extremely inspirational to me. They were able to pull themselves into the middle class by their intelligence, their drive, and hard work, so I expected the same from myself.” She gives high praise to the Prince William County Public School system and her mentors there. “I was so lucky to have the teachers I had.”

You Can’t Do Both

As a junior in college, Burt studied music as a major. A panel of musicians was invited to answer questions from students in one of her classes. One musician was from a musical group, which Burt says she will not name. She told him she was studying both law and music, and asked if it was possible to have careers in both fields? The musician laughed and replied, “Absolutely not. If you want to practice law, do that. If you want to become a musician, do that, but pick one. You can’t do both.” Burt was crushed, realizing that if he was right, after college her dreams of playing music would come to an end, so she enjoyed it as much as she could during the remainder of her college life. It wasn’t until about a year after she graduated that she decided he was dead wrong. She could do both, and she has been doing so ever since.

Don’t Settle

Burt says that after graduating, “I went and got a job with a big city law firm. I was not cut out for it at all. I was not happy.” She moved to a smaller firm, which was a better fit. Eventually though, she opened her own shop so she could have time to do the musical and volunteer work she loved. Even her law firm is all about service. “I wanted to be in practice dealing with people directly,” Burt says, so she focused on family law. Then she added service organizations, like community associations, non-profits, volunteer groups, and arts associations, which now form the bulk of her business.

Old Bridge Chamber Orchestra

A year or so out of law school in 2003, Burt was a law clerk and enjoyed it but felt the need for something more. After researching music in her community she came across Old Bridge Chamber Orchestra and gave them a call. “They were so welcoming and nurturing,” she says. Not only did she go on to play for them, she brought along her two sisters, also musicians. To this day they all still play, but now Burt also serves at the Concertmistress and Board President.

messiah-ad-2016-1“Our Messiah Sing-Along is easily our most popular event,” says Burt. “There is something profound and beautiful about hundreds of people joining forces to produce this music.” Admission is free but donations are encouraged. Due to popular demand, the event is being offered twice: on Friday, December 16th at First Baptist Church at 13600 Minnieville Road in Woodbridge and on Saturday, December 17th at Grace United Methodist Church at 9750 Wellington Road in Manassas. They usually do five performances per season and details are on their website. Their biggest concert of the year is in May at the Hylton Performing Arts Center in Manassas. The “Tribute to American Composers” features songs Americans know and love, including works by Aaron Copland and George Gershwin’s Rhapsody in Blue.

Prince William County Arts Council

Burt suggests a great first step for parents to encourage their children to explore music is by contacting the Prince William County Arts Council. Its job is to support artists and performers while connecting with community members.

World Doctors Orchestra USA

As President of World Doctors Orchestra USA, Burt is excited about the projects this group has in the works, including their goal of bringing a youth choir over from South Africa for an event in June. People short on volunteering time but with an interest in offering support can donate at their website.

Contact Information for Sheyna Burt

To learn more about Burt, visit her website for plenty of information regarding Burt, her volunteer work, her awards, and her business.

Episode #7 – Promoting Classical Music in Northern Virginia

Northern VA Advice Givers:  Sheyna Burt

The Rundown

  • A little girl with a big dream creates a fulfilling life for herself.
  • Role models and mentors are all around you.
  • Life is richer when you give back through service.
  • The value of pursuing your dreams.
  • How to find rewarding ways to be of service in your own community.

Summary

Sheyna Burt holds the distinction of not only being an attorney with her own law practice, but serving in her community as a volunteer in numerous organizations, including her role as President of World Doctors Orchestra USA. Her professional and personal work focuses on service and giving back. Her track record is a sterling example of how one can find a balance between their personal and professional lives doing work they love. Burt’s story is inspiring, but more than that, she provides tips and examples of how you can become involved in service to your own community.

Time-Stamped Show Notes

  • [00:00]  Introduction to Sheyna Burt, attorney, musician, and volunteer.
  • [00:40]  A brief history of Burt’s background.
  • [01:39]  Lofty goals for a little girl.
  • [03:30]  Mentors and teachers who influenced Burt’s life choices.
  • [04:50]  Burt’s first violin, and finding her “fellow nerds of music”.
  • [06:30]  An unnamed  musician made the mistake of telling Burt that she could not pursue both law and music.
  • [08:15]  Joining Old Bridge Chamber Orchestra with her two sisters.
  • [10:15]  Finding the right fit for her career and volunteer work.
  • [14:30]  Service is important to Burt, so she chose family law, and to that added clients including community and arts associations, volunteer organizations, and non-profit boards.
  • [16:53]  If you are looking to get involved in music in your community, Google the Arts Council for your area.
  • [20:00]  Get involved in community service locally as Burt did.
  • [21:35]  Contact information for Burt.
http://traffic.libsyn.com/northernvaadvicegivers/EP_008_Sheyna_Burt.mp3
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